January 24, 2013

Negotiating a flexible work schedule

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How much money would you give up for more flexibility at work? A recent study done by staffing firm Mom Corps, found that 45% of people would give up part (about 8.6%) of their salary to have more flexibility at work. And that number is up approximately 3% from the prior year's survey. Flexibility is becoming increasingly more important to workers today. In my coaching practice, I  regularly get asked for help from clients looking for more flexible work options. But in the wild world of work, how can you trap that elusive beast - the flexible job?

A great place to start would be to explore the website workoptions.com. On the website, there are downloadable workplace proposals that you can use when talking to your boss about getting a more flexible schedule. There are also lots of great articles on how to build your confidence, and how to help you plan your strategy before talking to your boss. If you have been hoping to find more flexibility at work, now is the time to start taking action and start making time for your life!

January 17, 2013

Resource for eating disorder struggles

Eating disorders can lead to feelings of hopelessness, but recovery is possible. Join us on 2/23/2013 for the Houston Eating Disorder Specialists Conference for a day of education and hope as we explore the latest advances in eating disorders care with local and national experts - including Carolyn Costin, one of the foremost experts in the treatment of eating disorders. This conference will benefit anyone wanting more information about these treatable illnesses, including students, professionals, and those affected by eating disorders. You don't want to miss this.

If you are interested in attending the conference, you can register through the link below. Hope to see you there!


January 11, 2013

What to leave off your resume

Don't tell them that...What not to say on your resume!

At some point in your life you will need a resume. Resume can be tricky to craft well. And the stakes are high. If you have a bad resume, you will likely not get the interview you want. No interview = no job. So, be careful about what you put on your resume. Check out this article that I contributed to for more on what not to put on your resume.


January 7, 2013

Battling a bad body image?

I recently finished reading Margot Starbuck's "Unsqueezed - Springing free from skinny jeans, nose jobs, highlights, and stilettos." Starbuck addresses from a Christian perspective, a dilemma many of us face on a daily basis, What do I do when I don't feel good in my own skin?

Those pesky thoughts pop into your head, "If only I could change my hair, get rid of those unfortunate wrinkles around my eyes, and deal with some of that cellulite on my thighs, maybe then I would finally feel good." As Starbuck points out, these insecurities are only intensified by a culture that seems to have "effectively marketed the myth that women's bodies exist for no higher purpose than to be viewed."

With wit and humor, Starbuck addresses the issues that often lead us to feeling less than, and discusses practical ways to embrace who you are. There can be real freedom if we accept our bodies and use them for the purposes for which they were created. After all, "God seems to be dealing in an entirely different currency than we've been working with, when it comes to the value and purpose of our bodies."

The really wonderful thing is that when I am freed up from the obsessions about my body, I can really use my body to reach my goals and to care for others. When I stop worrying about how my thighs look in a bathing suit, I can start using those thighs to help my elderly neighbor walk her groceries into her home, or carry laundry to my daughters room,  or to walk up the stairs to get to work to counsel others who are struggling with their own body image. The coolest part is that I already have everything I need to do those things.

So today, instead of lamenting what my body is not, I am going to be thankful for what I have been given and try to enjoy using my body for the purpose for which it was meant - to live and love!

January 2, 2013

Ice cream therapy - How to stop feeding your emotions


What foods do you crave when you are sad, or angry, or bored? Many of us will reach for some ice cream or potato chips when we are moody. It feels like that bowl of Blue Bell will make everything better, but sadly, you still feel pretty rotten when you get to the bottom of the bowl. You may have tried to feed your emotions with food but have completely ignored the fact that you feel sad about a disagreement you had with a friend or your spouse.

That is called emotional eating--eating to feed an uncomfortable feeling, not your physical hunger. Emotional eating is a major cause of overeating. In fact, according to experts, 75% of overeating is caused by emotions.

Turning to food can become a bad habit that can stop you from learning the skills you need to actually take care of yourself when you are upset, and it can lead to overeating and lower self-esteem.

By identifying your own personal triggers, you can find better techniques for taking care of your yourself. This WebMd article talks about how to tell the difference between physical and emotional hunger, and gives some helpful ideas for managing emotional eating. A good first step is to ask yourself if you are actually hungry. If you are, find a healthy snack. If not, find other activities that are enjoyable to you such as reading a good book, taking a bubble bath, or talking to a friend. Keep a list of these activities so that you can go to it when you feel the urge to eat. The urge to eat will often pass after you engage in these types of activities. You can learn to stop feeding your emotions.

If you are having trouble getting hold of your emotional eating, a counselor can help. Please contact one of our Houston counselors to find out how you can make changes today.