February 8, 2018

Need to get motivated? Try this simple tip.

I hit the snooze button and then I hit it again until I absolutely have to get out of bed. I have trouble cleaning my home even though it bothers me to see it dirty. I avoid making that phone call to schedule a doctor's appointment. I keep speaking sarcastically to my partner when I wish I was being kind instead. 

How can you change your bad habits and learn to feel more in control?

Mel Robbins describes one simple tip for moving from idea to action. She recommends you count down 5-4-3-2-1, and then spring into action. If you wait any longer to act, your brain will sabotage any changes in your behavior you are trying to make. As humans we are wired to want comfort, pleasure and familiarity, so we resist change. Pausing like you do when you hit the snooze button effectively stops you from making changes. You can use this technique called the 5 second rule to outsmart your brain.

Using the rule, you interrupt habit loops that get encoded in the brain. Counting down, when you get to one, your habit has been interrupted and you have awakened the part of your brain you need to make changes. According to Robbins, this type of counting is a starting ritual that triggers you to act with confidence and shift gears. The ability to act with confidence and to feel that sense of movement is necessary for change. 

Check out her talk and then try this technique for yourself. You have the capacity to change your life one action, once choice, one step at a time. You can do this!

January 25, 2018

Encouragement Quotes From Dr.Martin Luther King Jr.

Last week we celebrated the life of Martin Luther King, Jr. He is inspiring for many reasons. One of the things I personally find the most inspiring is that he devoted his life to something--civil rights--even though it was incredibly hard and even dangerous. In the end, he paid the ultimate price, his life, but his legacy has has brought our society one step closer to the promises of our democracy. 

You may not be trying to change the entire course of our country, but you do have hard things in your life that you want to accomplish. Nothing worthwhile was ever done without hard work, persistence, thought, and time. And everything important thing worth doing will be met with resistance. Fight through that resistance, fight the people who criticize, persist in the things that matter. You will always feel stronger when you do hard things. 

Here are some quotes from MLK to encourage you in your journey as you try to make changes and take charge of your life. I hope you will be as inspired and as encouraged as I have been by Dr. King. Every time I listen to  his I have a dream speech, I am stopped in my tracks.

I recommend you read these quotes, and if one speaks to you, write it down, put it on your phone, pin it to your mirror, and then repeat it to yourself in the quiet of the morning or the darkness of the night. Use it like a mantra to guide and encourage you when you feel frustrated and want to give up on something. 

If you would like to schedule an appointment you can contact us at 713-591-3612 or nancy@wilsoncounseling.org. 

January 16, 2018

How Stress Affects Your Brain

I came across this video the other day talking about how stress affects your brain. If you have ever wondered how stress affects your brain I would recommend you check it out.

One of the most proven ways to deal with stress is through meditation. If you have been interested in meditating but need some help getting started or staying on schedule I recommend you use a meditation app like headspace. They are having a 40% off discount that you can take advantage of or use the free version.

If you would like to schedule an appointment contact us at 713-591-3612 or nancy@wilsoncounseling.org. 

December 27, 2017

Beauty From Ashes. New Year, New Hope.

"Meaningless, meaningless. Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless under the sun. What do people gain from all of their labors at which they toil under the sun? I have seen all the things that are done under the sun, all are meaningless, a chasing after the wind. " Ecclesiasties 1

Does anything really matter

Since Hurricane Harvey, I have been thinking a lot about these words from King Solomon in the Christian scriptures. It's a bit nihilistic, but nihilism comes easily in the wake of such quick destruction. A house that may have taken years to build was flooded in a matter of hours. All of the time spent choosing paint colors and fixtures and displaying art, all became irrelevant in a matter of hours. Possessions you spent a lifetime collecting and curating are flooded, soiled, swelled up, gone. When you go through something like that, a natural reaction is to ask, what's the point? Does any of it matter? What is really important to me?

Home being torn down after flooding during Harvey

Getting from sorrow to hope

It is easy to lose hope. So, what keeps you going? What gives you the motivation to rebuild, to keep living, to keep fighting? How can you get to a place of joy from a place of sorrow? Why bother when it will all turn to ashes? It will all end up in a landfill.

The debris of a home torn down after the flood

Joy is deeper and sweeter because you have seen suffering and loss

Many of you who have gone through painful experiences in life have learned that there can be joy even at the end of a very difficult season of life. And you may have found that your joy is deeper and sweeter because you have seen what it means to suffer and to experience loss.

Tomorrow brings wholeness and healing

Crystal Lewis has a song entitled "Beauty for Ashes." I love the redemptive message in the lyrics.
"He gives beauty for ashes. Strength for fear. Gladness for mourning. Peace for despair. When sorrow seems to surround you. When suffering hangs heavy on your head. Know that tomorrow brings wholeness and healing." Sometimes there has to be destruction before there can be rebuilding both literally and metaphorically.

This time of year, people start thinking about the new year and new year's resolutions. But for some of you, life is more about surviving. The idea of adding a resolution feels overwhelming. It is okay to feel down. It is a normal reaction to hard things. Be compassionate with yourself. You have had a hard year. You have survived a hard year in the best way you are able. That is enough.

Be compassionate and you will find good enough is good enough

When you don't have hope, remind yourself that even when you don't feel it, life will get better. We know from our history that after the rain, there is sun. After the sun sets, it also rises. It is just the cyclical nature of life. Believe in that cycle even when you don't feel it to be true. Lean into the hope.

People who love you will be light in your darkness

And when you don't have hope for yourself, surround yourself with people in your life who lift you up. Surround yourself with people who speak encouragement into your life. Surround yourself with people who support you and get you and love you. They will be the light you need in your darkness.

Choose hope. Choose to keep trying again tomorrow. 

Lean in to 2018 with hope that in this new year, there is new life. There is always hope. Be compassionate when you struggle with the hard times. All of the individual moments of life are not going to be good, but we can find meaning by choosing to love and care for those who need us. We can find meaning by fighting to do the things we are created to do. We can choose hope, we can choose life as long as there is breath in our bodies.

May 2018 bring you beauty from ashes, strength from fear, gladness for mourning and peace for despair. HAPPY NEW YEAR!

If you are struggling to find hope in your life, Wilson Counseling has Houston-area counselors who can help you. Please contact Wilson Counseling by phone at 713 - 591 - 3612 or via email at Nancy @ wilsoncounsleing. org. 

November 27, 2017

Wilson Counseling Welcomes New Associate

Wilson Counseling would like to welcome our new associate Ashley Giles!

Ashley is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and specializes in helping her clients resolve problems in their relationships, low self-esteem, sexual issues, depression, stress, and anxiety. She enjoys working collaboratively with couples and individuals to address the sources of distress in their lives. Ashley received her Masters in Social Work at New York University and a Bachelor’s Degree in Accounting with a minor in Gender and Women’s Studies at Southern Methodist University.
Ashley’s goal is to assist her clients in finding healing, happiness, and empowerment in their lives and relationships because no one is given a guidebook on how to master relationships with others or with themselves. Her experience treating individuals and couples in New York City and her trainings in couples, sex, and cognitive therapies have prepared her to successfully guide her clients to fill-in-the-blanks that leave them feeling unfulfilled and over-stressed.
Ashley provides an environment where clients can feel comfortable to discuss and address personal and relationship issues, including sexual concerns. She relies on a combination of evidence-based techniques to help individuals and couples experiencing a range of relationship and sexual difficulties. Some of the issues that can be addressed in sex therapy include erectile or ejaculatory dysfunction, low sexual desire, lack of intimacy, or sexual pain. When working with Ashley, relationship and sex therapy will consist of traditional talk therapy and may include psychoeducation, exercises to do at home, cognitive and behavioral techniques, and discussion and resolution of any underlying or co-existing issues between you and your partner.
Ashley supports her clients with an open mind, compassion, and validation. She utilizes attachment-based and cognitive behavioral therapies, the Gottman Method, Relational Life Therapy, and mindfulness techniques as appropriate for each client’s unique struggles. She works actively with her clients to clarify their needs, regularly evaluate their process in therapy, and achieve their goals.

If you would like to schedule an appointment with Ashley or one of our other Houston therapists you can contact us at 713-591-3612 or nancy@wilsoncounseling.org. Visit our website for more information.