Negotiating a flexible work schedule

How much money would you give up for more flexibility at work? A recent study done by staffing firm Mom Corps, found that 45% of people would give up part (about 8.6%) of their salary to have more flexibility at work. And that number is up approximately 3% from the prior year's survey. Flexibility is becoming increasingly more important to workers today. In my coaching practice, I regularly get asked for help from clients looking for more flexible work options. But in the wild world of work, how can you trap that elusive beast - the flexible job?

A great place to start would be to explore the website workoptions.com. On the website, there are downloadable workplace proposals that you can use when talking to your boss about getting a more flexible schedule. There are also lots of great articles on how to build your confidence, and how to help you plan your strategy before talking to your boss. If you have been hoping to find more flexibility at work, now is the time to start taking action and start making time for your life!

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