Wilson Counseling: The Armchair Chronicles

Breakups are really hard. I showed you why breakups are painful in my latest post which you can find here. In this post I am going to show you how to get past a painful break-up. Purge your ex from all of your contacts Stay off of social media for a few weeks Pack up photos or other reminders of your ex Spend time with those who love you. Don't isolate even if that is all you want to do Journal about your feelings This photo was actually taken by my daughter (who is awesome). You can find her blog here.  Write a letter to your ex (but don't send it). This is just for you Acknowledge the good things about your past relationship (but don't over-romanticize it) Spend time doing things that recharge you Give it time. Rushing into a new relationship will not solve the problem  Make a list of your goals and dreams. This will help you redefine the life you want and get you thinking about the ...

Love hurts, literally You can see the physical and emotional pain in the body language of someone who has gone through a recent breakup. It hurts to exist. It looks like it takes all their energy just to hold themselves up. The metaphorical weight of the world seems to be literally propped on their shoulders, threatening to crush them. And the distant, glassy look in their eyes betrays the fact that they are not fully present. It is too painful to exist fully in the here and now. The most popular post I have ever written is entitled " Letting go of broken relationships ." It resonates with people because so many people in broken relationships can't let go. We fear the breakup. We are wired to avoid pain, so why would we court it by breaking up with our partner?  Some of the most depressed clients I have worked with are those going through recent break-ups. I had one client recently who commented, "My ex is already posting pictures of herself with...