11 Ways to Get Past Painful Break-ups

Breakups are really hard. I showed you why breakups are painful in my latest post which you can find here. In this post I am going to show you how to get past a painful break-up.

Purge your ex from all of your contacts

Stay off of social media for a few weeks

Pack up photos or other reminders of your ex

Spend time with those who love you. Don't isolate even if that is all you want to do

Journal about your feelings

This photo was actually taken by my daughter (who is awesome). You can find her blog here.

Write a letter to your ex (but don't send it). This is just for you

Acknowledge the good things about your past relationship (but don't over-romanticize it)

Spend time doing things that recharge you

Give it time. Rushing into a new relationship will not solve the problem

Make a list of your goals and dreams. This will help you redefine the life you want and get you thinking about the possibilities.

Make a list of 10 things you like about yourself. This can help you develop some self-compassion. You have a lot to offer the universe. Yes, you!

Here is a little infographic to sum up the post:

If you are struggling with the pain in your life, professional counseling can help. You can call our Houston therapist at 713 - 591 -3612, or visit the Wilson Counseling website at www.wilsoncounseling.org to find out more.

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