In my last blog post, entitled "Life With A Narcissit,"I talked about what it was like living with someone who has characteristics of narcissism or even full-blown narcissistic personality disorder. You may have recognized someone you know when reading about narcissism. It can be very overwhelming to deal with individuals who have these traits. Even as a victim, you may start to feel like there is something wrong with you. What can you do to remain emotionally intact?
Elly Prior has a great article about this entitled "How to Deal With a Narcissist Partner." Below is an infographic I created showing some of Elly's top 10 tips for surviving life with a partner who has
Top 10 Tips For Surviving Life With a Narcissistic Partner
If you do not want to get emotionally swallowed up and spit out by your partner, boundary setting is necessary.
What To Say To a Narcissist
You say: "This is not good for the children. If you keep talking this way, I will remove the kids from the situation and tell explain to them what is actually going on. Although I won't say bad things about you, I will explain to them why this type of behavior is not okay. "
You say: "If you are willing to speak peacefully, I am happy to talk to you about your concerns, but if you keep talking to me in that tone with those words, I will have to hang up the phone. " (If they continue, hang up the phone. Do not attempt to argue or fight back.)
Narcissist: Threatens to divorce or leave you if you don't do what they want.
You say: "If you choose to leave me, that is your choice. I have to be true to standing up for the things I feel I need in my life. "
You can't control your narcissistic partner, but you can control how you deal with him. And that gives you significant power over your own life. You are deserving of care, love, and respect, not abuse. If you can't get those things from your partner, I recommend you surround yourself with others who can treat you with dignity.
Narcissists are Emotional Vampires
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