Couples Counseling Humor - Fixing verus listening

In couples counseling, I teach couples to use active listening techniques to improve their communication. Usually one of the the partners wants to "fix" their partners problem or fix their partner when the partner really just wants to feel understood and heard.

This video makes light of this concept of listening versus fixing. It is pretty hilarious. Enjoy!

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